"Appreciation" which means recognising some good qualities in someone or something and
when the "someone" becomes our own self it just gets the title "appreciating myself". We all want that appreciation. Sometimes we even crave for it from a particular person for a certain activity or quality of ourselves.
When we don't get that we feel sad or more precisely we get heart-broken for some cases. But here lies the problem if we crave for that appreciation from somebody else we expected. After that we feel those types of negative feelings, but what if we don't hope affection from anybody else and started appreciating ourselves, then this phenomena will be changed totally. And more so if we get the appreciation from anybody it would be a bonus because after appreciating our own self we did not crave from others and if we get it we are grateful and if we don't we are absolutely ok with our own self.
Now here comes the question: how can we appreciate our own self? Are there any practical skills for appreciating oneself? From my perspective hell!! yes by all means there are some skills.
How to practice self love?
First of all in my humble opinion to appreciate our own-self, we must accept ourselves as
we are, we should accept our conditions wholeheartedly.Now here comes the hook: why can't we accept ourselves? Because of three C's. These three C's are the cause for creating insecurity, negativity within ourselves and what are those three C's? They are "compare", "criticize", and "complain". Every time when we compare ourselves with someone else's condition, appearances or
Whatever, we feel insecure or each time when we complain or criticize our circumstances we feel unworthy and hopeless. Appreciation of ourselves is like a far fetched reality then.
So for these 3 C's we can't accept ourselves and so we can't appreciate ourselves.
So what's the remedy for it? The remedy is stopping those 3 C's as much as we can and to start being grateful for what we have. Gratitude is the only step of acceptance and appreciation, because if you are not grateful for what you have right now, then you're not going to achieve what you have desired for.
How to practice self love?
Secondly, whenever we feel insecure about our own self at that point of time some way
or the other our weaknesses get naked by seeing someone or something.
So in life every time we should always focus on our strength and keeping it in the forefront
as well as being totally aware of our weaknesses and trying to improve them, change them.
Our imperfections make us who we are and the journey from that imperfection to perfection
makes life unique,authentic and highly appreciable to ourselves and to others.
How to practice self love?
Thirdly, as there is the proverb, you are the average of the five people you spend the
most time with. Whom do we hang out with most of the time? You should always surround yourself with positive, growth minded people so that they can see your true value, your true worth and help you to grow and encourage you in the course of life.
How to practice self love?
Fourthly, we shouldn't be too analytical about ourselves and our life as well.
The more we take life as a game and be absolutely passionate about the game the more we will live our life joyfully.
Just letting go of the traumas of the past by forgiving and the anxieties of the future by being in the present moment, being mindful, being an effective player of the game of life.
Finally, self discipline is the most efficient way to self care and self-appreciation.
Having a fitness routine, journalling, meditation practice so all in all some active practices
which gives strength to your mental and physical health, is not only helpful to appreciate and love yourself but also to appreciate and love others.
So these are some of the ways we can develop our self appreciation. Some are instantly helpful and some are effective in the long run but in both ways you will love and appreciate yourself more wholeheartedly.
Thanks for reading the article till the end.
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